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Proverbs 7

7     My son, keep my words

    and treasure up my commandments with you;

 2     keep my commandments and live;

    keep my teaching as the apple of your eye;

 3     bind them on your fingers;

    write them on the tablet of your heart.

 4     Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”

    and call insight your intimate friend,

 5     to keep you from the forbidden1 woman,

    from the adulteress2 with her smooth words.

 6     For at the window of my house

    I have looked out through my lattice,

 7     and I have seen among the simple,

    I have perceived among the youths,

    a young man lacking sense,

 8     passing along the street near her corner,

    taking the road to her house

 9     in the twilight, in the evening,

    at the time of night and darkness.

10     And behold, the woman meets him,

    dressed as a prostitute, wily of heart.3

11     She is loud and wayward;

    her feet do not stay at home;

12     now in the street, now in the market,

    and at every corner she lies in wait.

13     She seizes him and kisses him,

    and with bold face she says to him,

14    “I had to offer sacrifices,4

    and today I have paid my vows;

15     so now I have come out to meet you,

    to seek you eagerly, and I have found you.

16     I have spread my couch with coverings,

    colored linens from Egyptian linen;

17     I have perfumed my bed with myrrh,

    aloes, and cinnamon.

18     Come, let us take our fill of love till morning;

    let us delight ourselves with love.

19     For my husband is not at home;

    he has gone on a long journey;

20     he took a bag of money with him;

    at full moon he will come home.”

21     With much seductive speech she persuades him;

    with her smooth talk she compels him.

22     All at once he follows her,

    as an ox goes to the slaughter,

    or as a stag is caught fast5

23     till an arrow pierces its liver;

    as a bird rushes into a snare;

    he does not know that it will cost him his life.

24     And now, O sons, listen to me,

    and be attentive to the words of my mouth.

25     Let not your heart turn aside to her ways;

    do not stray into her paths,

26     for many a victim has she laid low,

    and all her slain are a mighty throng.

27     Her house is the way to Sheol,

    going down to the chambers of death.

Section Overview

The sayings in Proverbs 7 sustain the emphasis on women and desire from chapters 5–6. In fact, this chapter closely parallels the material in 6:20–35. Both sections open with sayings from the father that mimic the vocabulary of the Mosaic law in Deuteronomy. Both sections also provide extended depictions of the young man succumbing to the temptations of the foreign woman.

And yet, whereas 6:20–35 focused on the son’s perspective and motives, this chapter centers primarily on the words and activity of the foreign woman. The descriptions of this woman have distinct echoes from the stories of Joseph and Potiphar’s wife as well as Judah and Tamar (Genesis 39; 38). Perhaps the most impressive part of this chapter is how creatively the father is able to embody the words and thoughts of the woman in Proverbs 7:14–20.

Section Outline

  I.M.  Ninth Instruction (7:1–27)

1.  A Call for Intimacy with the Father’s Commands (7:1–5)

2.  The Young Man Out at Night (7:6–9)

3.  Rendezvous with the Foreign Woman (7:10–13)

4.  Seductive Words and Deeds (7:14–20)

5.  The Dire Consequences for a Moment of Fun (7:21–23)

6.  A Renewed Call to Heed the Father’s Words (7:24–27)

Response

Desire for Wisdom

After three consecutive chapters warning against the temptations of the foreign woman, we might easily be led to agree with Sigmund Freud that we are captive to our hidden sexual tendencies. Or, in words often attributed to Oscar Wilde, “Everything is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.”70

Sex is indeed a powerful impulse and a clear indication that God wants us to be fruitful and multiply (Prov. 5:15–19). But it would be a mistake to assume from these three chapters that Proverbs is more concerned with sexuality than with other virtues and vices. As noted throughout these last three chapters, sexual desire is central because it is an expression of human eros—passionate attraction toward people, nations, things, institutions, and knowledge. In his Confessions Augustine remembers the beginning of his learning, when he “had first been fired with passion for the pursuit of wisdom.”71 In the same way we can love our car and our country, or our spouse (or another’s spouse).

Eros is a desire that drive us toward some form of personal satisfaction—“a specially heightened case of desire.”72 The desire for a sports team to win a game or for justice in the city are not really erotic desires, for they do not involve the self directly in an intense search for possibility and fulfillment.

As seen in Proverbs, the desire for wisdom is erotic because it does drive our yearning to find satisfaction and understand and to find meaning and order in the world—to rest our restless souls. If the Greeks have given us philo-sophy, a brotherly love of wisdom, then Proverbs gives us Eros-sophy, a passionate love for wisdom.

Ecclesiastes 7 offers a memoir of this passionate search for wisdom. When we survey the book as a whole, we find a character called the Preacher (“Qoheleth”), who has been musing over his many observations in life. He has seen repetition and boredom (Eccles. 1:2–11; 3:1–8), mysteries and enigmas (Eccles. 1:15; 2:15; 7:1–13), weariness (Eccles. 1:8; 12:12), sorrow (Eccles. 1:18; 2:23; 7:3), oppression (Eccles. 4:1–3; 5:8), loneliness (Eccles. 1:9–11; 4:9–12), death (Eccles. 8:10; 9:1–6), and every other manner of difficulty in life. Significantly, the Preacher uses his heart to test the pleasures of all things in this world (Eccles. 1:17; 2:1–10).

I recently met with a student who had taken a journey just like this. He tested sex, hard drugs, sports, education, and fame and barely lived to tell about it. But he came more and more to find the search unsatisfying; there had to be a greater possibility for him.

In a long central speech in Ecclesiastes 7 the Preacher characterizes his observations and longings in language resembling Proverbs 5–7:

I find something more bitter than death: the woman whose heart is snares and nets, and whose hands are fetters. He who pleases God escapes her, but the sinner is taken by her. Behold, this is what I found, says the Preacher, while adding one thing to another to find the scheme of things—which my soul has sought repeatedly, but I have not found. One man among a thousand I found, but a woman among all these I have not found. (Eccles. 7:26–28)

The Preacher describes his search for meaning in terms of two women—one that he found and another that he did not. The woman he did not find is vague, almost opaque to the reader. But the woman he found is “more bitter than death.” In Proverbs 5 the foreign woman is likewise described as “bitter” and leading down a path to “Sheol,” the grave (5:4–5). For what are probably a number of reasons—extreme rationalism and individualism, to name two—the Preacher’s search for eros lands on the wrong object, that of folly and the adulteress. To love wisdom and seek her can seem altogether impossible with a fallen self in a fallen world in which we allow eros to roam too freely (cf. 14:15). The father in Proverbs is not asking us to compare wisdom to other pleasures and to determine which we prefer. He is warning us to love her from the beginning. The Preacher did not.

Another picture of wandering eros appears in the interaction between Jesus and the woman at the well (John 4:1–30). Many scholars believe the woman’s request for “living water” that satisfies thirst forever to have sexual overtones for her (John 4:10–15).73 That is, given the privacy of the moment, she begins to believe Jesus might be seducing her. Indeed, Jesus allows the discussion to proceed in order to get to the heart of the matter, as he says, “Go, call your husband, and come here” (John 4:16). The woman is forced to acknowledge the shame of her erotic lifestyle; she has had five husbands and is with a sixth man who is not her husband. Her search for sexual pleasure has suppressed a deeper longing for truth and meaning that are like “a spring of water welling up to eternal life” (John 4:14).

Showing versus Telling

In Proverbs 7:10–20, rather than continuing to describe this woman and her dangers, the father takes on a role of dramatic impersonation, adopting the motives and voice of the foreign woman. As discussed in Response section Proverbs 6, literary theorists often differentiate these two ways of writing (or storytelling) as “showing” and “telling.” The telling is necessary to set the context and guide the reader along. One can hardly hold an audience without it. But the showing captures our imagination as participants in the drama, like being caught up in a movie, especially at an IMAX theater.

Why is this important to recognize? In many years of teaching Proverbs I have found that the majority of students read this section of Proverbs 7 as historical testimony, perhaps Solomon’s. But when I point out how unlikely it would have been for the father to get out of his bed and eavesdrop on this scene without being caught, the students begin to catch on. It is rather absurd to think that the father is just reporting a second-hand experience. Instead he is provoking the son in a process of imagination and anticipation, a process he will break abruptly, turning back to telling in verses 21–27. For these students Proverbs all of a sudden gets more captivating and interesting.

And this should make us think again both about how we educate and how we read the Bible. On the former matter, the Response section to Proverbs 6 noted that we should think about how we educate our children and ourselves morally. Do we appeal to the rich human imagination, or do we only list rules of conduct for them to memorize and obey?

Second, and related to this, these students are usually somewhat blinded by the fact that they had been trained to read the Bible only for historical fact and truth statements. They often do not see any difference between genres such as law, poetry, chronicle, or prophecy. And so they read right through the poetic scenes, attempting to turn them into facts or to decide who said them and when. These questions are not always unimportant, but these passages are primarily here to shape us through their rather sophisticated blend of showing and telling. We may think here of Jesus’ answer to the lawyer who asks, “Who is my neighbor?” (Luke 10:29). Jesus replies by showing: “A man was going down from Jerusalem to Jericho . . .” Sometimes showing can do more than telling.Proverbs 7

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