She
2 I slept, but my heart was awake.
A sound! My beloved is knocking.
“Open to me, my sister, my love,
my dove, my perfect one,
for my head is wet with dew,
my locks with the drops of the night.”
3 I had put off my garment;
how could I put it on?
I had bathed my feet;
how could I soil them?
4 My beloved put his hand to the latch,
and my heart was thrilled within me.
5 I arose to open to my beloved,
and my hands dripped with myrrh,
my fingers with liquid myrrh,
on the handles of the bolt.
6 I opened to my beloved,
but my beloved had turned and gone.
My soul failed me when he spoke.
I sought him, but found him not;
I called him, but he gave no answer.
7 The watchmen found me
as they went about in the city;
they beat me, they bruised me,
they took away my veil,
those watchmen of the walls.
8 I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem,
if you find my beloved,
that you tell him
I am sick with love.
Others
9 What is your beloved more than another beloved,
O most beautiful among women?
What is your beloved more than another beloved,
that you thus adjure us?
She
10 My beloved is radiant and ruddy,
distinguished among ten thousand.
11 His head is the finest gold;
his locks are wavy,
black as a raven.
12 His eyes are like doves
beside streams of water,
bathed in milk,
sitting beside a full pool.1
13 His cheeks are like beds of spices,
mounds of sweet-smelling herbs.
His lips are lilies,
dripping liquid myrrh.
14 His arms are rods of gold,
set with jewels.
His body is polished ivory,2
bedecked with sapphires.3
15 His legs are alabaster columns,
set on bases of gold.
His appearance is like Lebanon,
choice as the cedars.
16 His mouth4 is most sweet,
and he is altogether desirable.
This is my beloved and this is my friend,
O daughters of Jerusalem.
Others
6 Where has your beloved gone,
O most beautiful among women?
Where has your beloved turned,
that we may seek him with you?
She
2 My beloved has gone down to his garden
to the beds of spices,
to graze5 in the gardens
and to gather lilies.
3 I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine;
he grazes among the lilies.
Section Overview: A Reprieve and Return to Eden
For five scenes thus far (Song 1:2–5:1) the Song has depicted idyllic love. Now, at the start of this sixth section, some realism sets in. Instead of walking into their bedroom through the printed page and witnessing their sweet pillow talk, tender touches, and passionate lovemaking, we walk with them east of Eden. We join the couple in their separation, stepping out into the night and hearing the crunch of thorns and thistles beneath our feet. The situation is worse than the harshness of brothers (1:6) and the peskiness of foxes (2:15), for now sin slithers upon the scene in forms yet unseen: the groom’s insensitive sweet talk (5:2), the bride’s sleepy selfishness (5:3), the brutality of men (5:7), and perhaps the subtle disdain of women (5:9). However, all is not lost. In the second and third poems that compose this three-poem scene (5:2–7/5:8–16/6:1–3), the couple returns to their Edenic intimacy. Through the bride’s seeking after and remembering her beloved’s love, her midnight outside the garden transforms into a celebration of their covenant commitment (“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine”; 6:3) in paradise (her beloved in “his garden,” grazing “among the lilies”; 6:2–3).
Section Outline
VI. A Reprieve and Return to Eden (5:2–6:3)
A. Denied and Distraught (5:2–7)
B. What Is He Like? (5:8–16)
C. Where Has He Gone? (6:1–3)
Response
These three poems describe a reprieve and return to Eden. By it we learn that the idol of the perfect marriage is as dangerous as the idol of eros. We must be realistic about two sinners who say “I do” in an undone world. Unmet expectations are our unexpected undoing. No married couple lives happily ever after. Instead, we work through the impatient “Open to me!” and the angry “Why should I?” knowing that marriage and sex make wonderful bedfellows but terrible gods. Marriage is not god. Sex is not god. Yahweh is God. And he has made marriage and sex—with all their built-in difficulties—to sanctify sinners. Such difficulties will stretch but not sever the covenant bond. If we will allow them to work their providential purpose, they can strengthen our marriage vow “to have and to hold from this day forward . . . for better or for worse.”
We also learn that the root problem in marital conflict and the greatest obstacle to intimacy is selfishness. Song of Solomon 5:2–3 is dominated by selfish attitudes and actions. The groom is selfish because he has come home too late (she is already in bed and the door is locked). And even if they had planned something for his return, he should have been more considerate. Instead of treading on holy ground, asking to enter the garden temple with respect and reverence, he thinks he is at the drive-through window: he wants it his way, right away. He is inconsiderate, demanding, and foolish. But the groom is not alone in the sin of selfishness. The bride is selfish too. She is unhesitant in her unwillingness to let him in because it is inconvenient. She is too tired and thus erotically unenthusiastic. Verse 3 is dominated by the egocentric “I”: “I had put off my garment. . . . I had bathed my feet.”
What happens in verse 4 and following is a change of heart. First, he takes some initiative, and she responds. We do not know if any change has happened in his heart (we can assume something has changed), but we do know something has happened in hers. She is the focus here, as she is throughout the book.31 She is the star of the Song, and we are to live in light of her light. Watch the woman’s wisdom! Note her selfless steps. She stops thinking about herself (v. 3) and starts thinking about her husband (every verse but one in 5:4–6:3 is about her “beloved”). In 5:5–6 the egotistic “I” turns into an altruistic “I”: “I arose. . . . I opened. . . . I sought him . . . I called him.” Whatever sacrifice it takes, it is now her sole desire to find her lover in order to cure lovesickness. She puts her convenience aside, gets out of bed, and searches the dangerous city streets in the middle of the night. She risks her life for him, as well as her reputation (as she is taken for a prostitute by the guards). And even after the watchmen (at least in her dream) beat her (v. 7), she does not retreat home. Instead, she gets up and goes again. What is possessing her? Her beloved! He (not she) is her focus. If that is not obvious by her works, it is clear by her words: she gives seven verses to describe his perfection!
Finally, her selflessness is expressed even in the poem’s final line. Not only does she give herself to him physically (go ahead and graze “among the lilies”); she also gives herself metaphysically (“I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine”; 6:3). In 2:16 she declared, “My beloved is mine, and I am his.” Here in 6:3, however, she states that she belongs to her beloved first (“I am my beloved’s”) and then that he belongs to her second (“and my beloved is mine”). This slight shift showcases the shift from selfishness to selflessness.
Song of Solomon 5:2–3 and 6:1–2 are miles apart, and the chasm of the lovers’ separation has been bridged by self-denial. The Lord Jesus epitomized self-denial. In humility he made himself nothing and “humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death . . . on a cross” (Phil. 2:3–8). Christian marriages should look like his crucifixion, where selfless love and selfless submission collide (Eph. 5:21–33), where both husband and wife can say, “God has given me a lover who sings to me the story of our salvation—of God having reconciled selfish sinners through his selfless Son.”Song of Solomon 5:2–6:3
Song of Solomon 6:4–8:4