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Matthew 18:21–35

21 Then Peter came up and said to him, “Lord, how often will my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? As many as seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you seven times, but seventy-seven times.

23 “Therefore the kingdom of heaven may be compared to a king who wished to settle accounts with his servants.1 24 When he began to settle, one was brought to him who owed him ten thousand talents.2 25 And since he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and children and all that he had, and payment to be made. 26 So the servant3 fell on his knees, imploring him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you everything.’ 27 And out of pity for him, the master of that servant released him and forgave him the debt. 28 But when that same servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred denarii,4 and seizing him, he began to choke him, saying, ‘Pay what you owe.’ 29 So his fellow servant fell down and pleaded with him, ‘Have patience with me, and I will pay you.’ 30 He refused and went and put him in prison until he should pay the debt. 31 When his fellow servants saw what had taken place, they were greatly distressed, and they went and reported to their master all that had taken place. 32 Then his master summoned him and said to him, ‘You wicked servant! I forgave you all that debt because you pleaded with me. 33 And should not you have had mercy on your fellow servant, as I had mercy on you?’ 34 And in anger his master delivered him to the jailers,5 until he should pay all his debt. 35 So also my heavenly Father will do to every one of you, if you do not forgive your brother from your heart.”

Section Overview and Outline

  VI.P.  Fourth Discourse: Community Life in the Kingdom (18:1–35) . . .

5.  A Question about Forgiveness (18:21–22)

6.  A Parable Motivating Forgiveness (18:23–35)

Jesus’ parables do not necessarily conform to interpretive theories about them. Matthew 18:21–35 is a case in point. Some theorists say that parables have only one point, but this parable has several. Some say that parables leave readers in doubt about their meaning, but verse 35 plainly declares the point of the story: disciples who suffer offenses must forgive from the heart. Theorists say that parables are not allegorical, but Jesus states that the characters in this story do represent particular people: the king is the heavenly Father, while the servants stand for brothers who offend each other.

This parable has close ties to the preceding section. Jesus demands disciples to resolve problems caused by sin. If one brother sins against another, the offended party must seek to lead the sinner toward repentance. If that fails, the offended party takes witnesses. If that fails, church discipline follows. While contemporary readers are prone to ask what happens if the procedure does not work, Peter asks what happens if it does. How often must he forgive (v. 21)? As far as eyes can see, Jesus replies (v. 22). Knowing this is difficult, Jesus relates a motivational parable featuring a king, a pair of debtors, and a chorus of witnesses (vv. 23–35).

Response

Faithful disciples have questions about forgiveness. Are there limits on forgiveness? Should believers be pushovers, enduring abuse from those who take advantage of grace? Clearly, those who receive God’s grace extend grace to others. Disciples must forgive “as God in Christ forgave you” (Eph. 4:32). Jesus also declares, “If your brother sins, rebuke him, and if he repents, forgive him,” up to seven times a day (Luke 17:3–4).

But forgiveness is complex. Jesus offers forgiveness freely (Luke 23:34), yet forgiveness comes with a cost and a condition. The cost is the blood of Christ. The condition is that the sinner must repent (Luke 17:4; 24:47). Humans forgive in a similar way (although not identically). We forgive freely, from the heart (Matt. 18:35). The cost is letting go of hurt feelings and the desire for vengeance. The merciful seek God’s mercy, not his wrath (Rom. 12:19–21).

Ideally, the sinner freely repents and the offended party freely forgives. But what if the sinner refuses to repent? Even if the offended party forgives in his heart, the matter is not closed. Jesus sometimes says forgive, period, and sometimes says forgive if the sinner repents (cf. Matt. 6:14–15; Luke 17:4). We harmonize these commands by distinguishing subjective and objective elements of forgiveness. We forgive an offender subjectively (inwardly) by loving him, praying for him, seeking peace with him. But to complete the objective aspect of forgiveness, the sinner must repent.297 Even after one forgives inwardly, he may ask a sinner to repent (Matt. 18:15; Lev. 19:17).

Yet even if someone says, “I repent,” the objective side of reconciliation may be incomplete. Suppose someone steals my car. Three days later, I spot my neighbor driving it. When I confront him, he says, “I repent. Please forgive me.” I rightly say, “I forgive you. Give me the car.” If he refuses to return the car, the matter is not closed. The same holds for slander. If a slanderer repents, he must correct his lies and strive to restore the reputations he ruined. In the author’s experience, the worst people typically have the least interest in repentance or ability to face their sins. They are oblivious to their sins; they harbor thoughts of their sufferings, often more imagined than real. Bullies, liars, and abusers commonly have a weak or seared conscience, so they have scant ability to repent (1 Tim. 4:2). Indeed, repentance is impossible unless the Spirit intervenes.

Paul writes, “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all” (Rom. 12:18). The qualifications are necessary because reconciliation is elusive. One party cannot make peace unilaterally. Thus the saying “forgive and forget” may be true or false, depending on the meaning of “forget” (“forgive and forget” never appears in Scripture). Forgiveness does not require literal forgetting of sins suffered. When God says he will remember our sins no more in Jeremiah 31:34, he does not mean he literally forgets; he remembers everything. He means he will not punish. Humans do not literally forget sins either. Major traumas are ineradicable. When a disciple forgives, he “forgets” the quest for justice, but he need not pretend nothing happened. It is no virtue to let someone trample us. Besides, Jesus instructs his disciples to protect themselves: “When they persecute you . . . flee” (Matt. 10:23). “Forgive and take steps” is a better summary than “forgive and forget.” It is legitimate both to forgive an offender and to distance oneself from him (Titus 3:10).

But these refinements must never obscure the main point. Jesus freely forgave us, at great cost to himself. Therefore, we should forgive our brothers, from the heart. Learning from the Lord, we lay down anger and the lust for vengeance and extend mercy as God has to us.